Ectopic pregnancies and miscarriage

Miscarriage is always a sad event for all people, although different people will respond to it differently, and there is a couple of things that one learns from talking to women who have had a miscarriage is that particularly there is the work of the Miscarriage Association which is a well respected organisation that provides support, advice help and education for women surrounding miscarriage and they have a phrase which says: It's never nothing, it's always something and it's maybe everything' and I think it is really important to hold that true both as professionals and as women to understand that we understand that or if you are supporting someone that has gone through a miscarriage, this may be a very big life event for a woman, perhaps it's not but for many women it is a big life event and it may cause problems not just now but later on for them. Something that we also need to think about with miscarriage is that it is not just the woman that is affected, we focus on the woman because they are the one seeking medical input but men have feelings too, and men have feelings around miscarriage, and their feelings can be complicated as they may feel responsible which they are not, but they may feel that they are, and they may feel that they are unable to help and support and they don't know what to do. They may also be grieving for the loss of the child that they are no longer going to have and we need to think about how we support them too.